Posted: Jun 01 2018
There is so much to think about when planning a wedding. I actually did not realise the extent and the level of detail included. I'm one of these people who thinks about the finer details and so I can repeatedly come up with more and more different ideas by which to do something in a creative way. Not only is this time consuming, it's also pretty expensive. Weddings can be very expensive if you don't know when to curb the spending!
It's been a little under a year that we have had to plan this wedding. initially, it was all I thought about, planning every night creating Pinterest board after Pinterest board with new ideas for EVERY aspect of the day. It's now 3 months away and I'm feeling a little more relaxed about the whole process - with the help from a wedding planner, all suppliers are booked and pretty much paid for, and I have chilled out a little now not making it my focus all day every day and distracting me from work.
Here's how I planned my wedding in 10 steps:
As I've mentioned before, weddings are quite expensive. I suggest searching on Google for a "list of wedding expenses" to get an idea of how to budget. This list will have little details (i.e. tablecloths) that you wouldn't even think of! Prioritize what is important to you (i.e. venue or photos) and make a budget for that and work from there.
Size of wedding and venue
This ties in with the budget also, but think about what you and your partner want in a wedding. Is it a large or intimate wedding? What is the vibe or style of the venue you are looking for? Do your research and add your potential venues into your budget spreadsheet to make sure it fits into your budget.
Our venue is intimate and beautiful, with everything on site which is what wanted having elderly relatives there. Having a Church wedding was everything we wanted also as a couple and was fortunate enough to have found a beautiful venue with the Church a stone throw away with plenty of accommodation for our drunken guests to stumble back to own the evening.
TIP - Don't settle for any venue unless you get that stunned feeling when visiting. You want to instantly be wowed by the venue as you will want your guests to be, so don't jump on the venue unless it feels like the perfect option. You dream venue is out there!
Work with your partner to come up with a guest list that is a comfortable size for both of you. Each guest adds to the number of plates your caterer will prepare, favors, chair rentals and how much cake you'll need. I suggest keeping the number more on the conservative side - If there's room in the budget or you end up having more space than you thought you would, add later on.
Google Spreadsheets is a great way to collaborate with your partner without the back and forth.
Getting your dream team together
This would include your wedding planner, caterer, photographer, videographer, florist, DJ, make up artist and hair stylist. Instagram is a great way to check out their work and their experience. I suggest narrowing down three options for each and then going from there.
Deciding on the style and color theme
Most people already have a color scheme in mind, but if you don't, Pinterest is your best friend! You'll find so many mood boards and pictures of other weddings to get inspiration.
Invitations: Save the Dates, Wedding & Bridal Shower invites
You can either go with a local stationary store or do this online. Websites like Minted is a one stop shop for all your wedding invitations and they can mail it for you too!
Wedding party attire
With a color scheme in mind, choose outfits for your wedding party that also fits in with your theme. You can either go for uniform dresses for all or go modern and choose a different dress for each girl - it's up to you! There are a lot of websites, like Birdy Grey or Weddington Way, that offer affordable bridesmaids dresses that they can use over and over again.
Wedding gown shopping
This is one of the first things I focused on, I wanted to allow myself enough time to get the dream dress. I actually went with one of the first dresses I laid eyes on knowing that it was definitely me. I did, however, shop around a little more as my mum suggested, but went back to the initial one which was purchased.
TIP - Have a vision of what suits you, what you like before going shopping. If you don't, you may go dress blind and end up choosing something you never really loved.
Table settings & flowers
Again, use Pinterest to get ideas! If you're using vendors in different cities or countries, I suggest using Word or Powerpoint to visualize what you want exactly. This way, everyone is on the same page and you won't be surprised when you see it all come together.
It's so easy to get stressed out about wedding planning, but try to enjoy the process and remember why you're getting married.